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My husband and I rang in Thanksgiving by watching “Bad Moms” together. Not gonna lie.. We laughed our asses off. I don’t want to spoil it for the people who haven’t seen it however I will say… A few parts aren’t for the emotional heart… Especially when the credits roll and all of the actresses and their moms are sitting together discussing how their moms were once “bad moms.”
Life with kids (especially multiple kids) is crazy. Days blend together. You beat yourself up a lot. Constantly wonder if you’re doing okay, or if you’re somehow messing up your kids. If you have never questioned yourself, then you must be some sort of super parent!
The fact of the matter is… There is more mom-shaming in today’s society than ever before. All these controversial issues (breastfeeding, car seat safety, health foods, helicopter parenting, free-range parenting, etc) dominate us and no matter what we do there always seems to be someone shaking their head at our decisions.
Pile that on top of everything else we do daily and imagine the stress we carry. No wonder why men seem to think women are crazy!
So, as a tribute to this awesome movie, I compiled a little list of the ways that I have been a “bad mom.” I am also going to say that while I am admitting to these things, I love my kids more than life itself and I would never ever intentionally do something to harm them.
My “Bad Mom” Moments
Wondered what I fed the kids. –
I just did this yesterday, to be honest. We had our Thanksgiving feast on Tuesday because my family had to work the holiday. So we have been eating leftovers. The kids aren’t crazy about leftovers, so we were just snacking on whatever was in the fridge and I actually thought to myself.. What did my kids eat today?
Lost my son outside –
He was 2. My family from out of town was up. We were all out in our huge 2 acre back yard. He was there one minute and gone the next. Everyone was yelling for him and he was nowhere to be found. I went to look in my parent’s barn because they live next door. My son had climbed up on my dad’s riding lawn mower because he wanted to “ride the mow mow.” I thought my legs wouldn’t work again I was so weak-kneed.. Not to mention I thought my family was probably convinced I was the worst parent ever.
Forgot when the last time they showered –
This only really applies for my older two because they shower independently. We bathe our two year old still so he’s easy to keep track of. But, my older two don’t really like to take time out of their busy playtimes to clean. With all that I do, sometimes when I lay in bed trying to remember when the last time they showered was. I promise the longest they’ve ever gone is like 3 or 4 days…
Let other people weigh in too much –
Mom and Dad raise the kids. No one else. Unless of course, they’re being baby-sat. But one thing I tend to do is not have a backbone enough to say stop trying to parent my kid when I am right there.
Forgot to kiss them good night –
We love our bed time cuddles and loves. Most nights I can’t fall asleep without it and neither can they. But there have been times where I am exhausted and forget to go give kisses and tell them goodnight. I mean, how horrible am I?
Fed them awful food because it was easy –
Pretty sure every mom does this at some point. It’s just so freaking easy to drive through a fast food joint when you’ve spent a long day traveling to sports events.
Despite me just knowing I am a terrible mom…
I’m really not. My kids all tell me they love me and my husband all of the time. I woke up a couple mornings ago to a handmade card from my six year old daughter that said I love you Mom. She had drawn a ton of hearts and folded it up. Moments like that tell me I am doing something right.
Comment if you’d like and tell me what some of your “Bad Mom” moments are! I promise no judgement!