Co-sleeping is one of those big controversial issues of parenting. Is it safe or not? Should you do it?
I like to think of myself as more of a naturalist than anything. I think that if we were to go back to the basics of human existence, THAT is what would be safe and right. Yes, we have many conveniences not that keep us much safer than we were back in the early days. BUT we are still the same human race with the same instincts for survival.
When humans first walked the Earth, they didn’t have cribs. They didn’t have homes with a nursery just for baby. The baby stayed with its momma at all times. We have this amazing bond with our children that cannot be replicated. As mothers, our biggest fear is that something bad is going to happen to our babies. So it is understandable that co-sleeping has become controversial.
I have had three babies. They’re the center of my whole world. When I brought my first home from the hospital I was scared of EVERYTHING. It was so new. I was young. When my daughter would fall asleep, I was so afraid of SIDS that I would just sit and hold her so that I knew that she was okay. This was my ultimate beginning to co-sleeping.
Now that I have done it with three babies, I wanted to compile a list of the BEST things about co-sleeping. This is my way to spread the awareness that as long as it is done correctly, mom and baby can both benefit.
My Top 5 BEST Parts of Co-Sleeping
#1. You can nurse SO much easier.
When you co-sleep, exclusively breastfeeding is a world easier. Just think… When baby wakes up hungry, Momma no longer has to drag her half asleep butt out of bed and trip across the hall to the nursery to pick up her upset baby and then find a comfortable spot to sit down and prep to nurse. No. You can just roll over and lift up your night shirt without barely opening your eyes. As your baby gets older, you become so accustomed to it that you may not even wake up fully when they nurse.
#2. You have an instinct to protect your baby.
I remember worrying about whether or not I would roll over on the baby at first because I had heard horror stories about it. To my surprise, I had this amazing instinct that allowed me to sleep lighter and not move at all. I used to toss and turn a lot at night, but whenever I have a baby cradled in my arm pit, I slept dead still. It was like my body took over and knew that I had something there to protect. Any little twitch and I would wake up to check on them to know they were okay.
#3.Waking up and listening to your baby breathe is the best stress relief EVER.
I can’t tell you how many times I would wake up in the middle of the night and just stare at my sleeping babe. Their bellies would be deeply rising and falling with each little breath. There is just no bad day that could ever trump such perfection. Watching your baby sleep can calm any nerves and wash away any stress that you could ever be carrying.
I mean… Seriously… How perfect is that?!
#4. You have more room and money.
I can’t tell you how much money I saved not having to furnish a whole nursery. When the kiddos got older, sure we ended up buying beds and painting the walls and all that jazz. Baby stuff is expensive. I had a girl and two boys. So renovating the girl’s room to be a boy’s room in our tiny little house would have cost a lot. I didn’t have to worry about buying a crib or decorations. I spent more money on things like diapers and burp rags because parents know how you can never have too many of those.
#5. You see and enjoy more of the little moments.
This one to me is the most important. I can’t even imagine how many things I would have missed seeing if my child was in its own room. So many little hiccups in their sleep. Those times when they would wake up and coo in the middle of the night. Waking up to two beautiful and innocent eyes looking back into mine. Feeling that need that they have for you when they snuggle into your chest. All those things are what make parenting so enjoyable. Your bed is where you feel the most relaxed and safe. Imagine sharing that with your baby. It makes it a million times better.
Now I am definitely not saying that co-sleeping is right for everyone. I am not saying that you’re horrible if you don’t co-sleep. Every parent and every child has different needs. One person’s situation may not work for another. This is just my experience and I feel so strongly about it that I wanted to share my experiences and views on the matter with other moms.