I read something today in the land of social media that really resonated with me. It said that you don’t really hear people talking about the rough times they go through. People try so hard to be perfect online. No one wants to share the raw emotions of hardships.
We all go through hardships. Some more than others. Being in multiple direct sales companies, I was always taught to always stay positive. Negativity catches on easier than positivity. The idea was if you were always positive, it would catch on eventually.
This way of thinking always went against who I am. I like to think of myself as a realist. I love to dream, but at the end of the day I know that hard work is going to be the only way to succeed. There will be times
where I feel like the world is crushing me. But that’s the beauty of life. You can always overcome that. So I felt like I was faking it to always be positive on social media and never allow myself to have a bad day.
I want to share with you a major rough time that we have been going through.
I want my readers to know the real me. Not the optimistic me… The real, raw me. So, let me tell you what my family is going through. The weekend of Christmas, my husband was excused from work by his doctor after finding out that he had shingles in his dominant arm. At 29 years old. Shingles. Apparently getting it in your arm is rare. It affected two of the three nerves in his arm.
We have three kids and his income is our main income. The very little I make with my home businesses isn’t really enough to support us. This meant that we had to worry about how to pay the bills…
Fast forward to January 11th. My husband had his follow up doctor’s appointment. His doctor wrote him another note to excuse him for a whole month! How the heck do we survive a whole month? We have a $300 car payment on top of all of our utilities, groceries, and gas for our car and not a whole lot in savings. Now he also has two doctor bills to pay that equal out to over $300 as well.
If you want to rise above a rough patch, you will probably have to change the way you think.
You can probably guess that by now we’re freaking out. But what good is that going to do us?
My norm was to get super freaking excited about something. Start it and give it my all. When I would run into my first obstacle, I would self-destruct. I would pity party and stress out until I found my next big thing. One morning not too long after hubby was home, I remember waking up and feeling like something just clicked.
I thought to myself… NO. We’re not giving up this time. We will be successful. And I will find a way no matter what.
An amazing thing happened…
I started becoming more successful. At home and in my businesses. As a housewife, I was able to maintain more of my chores and not let them get out of control. In my businesses, I have hit more personal goals in the few days since Christmas than I have in the almost 8 years that I have been married.
I am starting this blogging adventure and love the idea of having it become my full-time business. My goal is to one day retire my husband because we have always worked better together than when he has to leave for a job every day. I feel like this is my time to fully commit myself to that journey.
What I hope you take away from all of this…
Everyone. I mean EVERYONE, has troubles. Has rough patches. It isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. However.. you will be able to accomplish more if you overpower that voice in your head telling you to quit. Telling you it isn’t going to work.
Sometimes we have to snap and say enough is enough. But do not ever forget those rough patches, because they will be what makes you who you are. You have to overcome and respect that those difficulties taught you hard and valuable life lessons.